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How Long Should Wedding Vows Be?
The short answer: 60 to 90 seconds spoken aloud, or roughly 150 to 200 words. Here's why that window works — and what happens when you drift outside it.
Reviewed by Louis Torres · Last updated November 2026
The 90-second rule
After 780+ weddings I can tell you exactly when guests start shifting in their seats: around the two-minute mark. Ninety seconds is the sweet spot — long enough for one real memory and one honest promise, short enough that the emotion lands before attention drifts.
Word count targets
- 60 seconds ≈ 130 words
- 90 seconds ≈ 200 words (the sweet spot)
- 120 seconds ≈ 260 words (the ceiling)
Nerves speed you up on the day. Practice at a pace that feels almost too slow, and you'll land where you meant to.
Why not longer?
Long vows aren't more romantic — they're more forgettable. Guests remember one line. Give them one great line inside 90 seconds and they'll quote it at the reception.
Why not shorter?
Under 45 seconds and it can read as unprepared. Give yourself room for the specific detail that makes the vows yours — that's usually what takes the extra 20 seconds.
Coordinate with your partner
Agree on a target length (and roughly matched tone) before writing. Different content is fine — different runtimes by more than a minute is what feels lopsided to the room.
How to trim without gutting it
- Cut adjectives before you cut stories.
- Delete "I just want to say" and any variant.
- Replace long lists ("kind, funny, thoughtful, generous…") with one specific example.
- End on the promise, not the setup.
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Written & reviewed by Louis Torres
Wedding photographer and officiant, nearly 30 years and 780+ weddings. Meet the author · Editorial standards